Mar 22, 2012

Our 1st meeting

Our first meeting was not the most romantic one..but it still kind of was. We met (like millions of other people) in a bar.

I had just turned 18 on that week and following Saturday I went to a bar with my best friend for the first time. Very soon we found our way to the dance floor and as we were dancing I suddenly saw this handsome Chinese guy on the other side of the room. I must have made quite a few glances on that direction, because Stephen's (my husband) friend told him that there is some girl that is looking at him all the time. All of sudden he appeared in front of me and started dancing with me. He used to do dancing as a hobby when he was younger so I was very impressed with his moves. (He even got a gold VIP card from one club for free because they wanted him to dance in their club)

So I was dancing with Stephen and my best friend was dancing with his friend. It was my first time dancing in a club with a guy, and I became very nervous. I also saw that my best friend felt really uncomfortable dancing with that other guy, so I grabbed her hand and we escaped outside of the bar and left the guys on the dancefloor..

We were standing outside in a chilly air for some time, and after a few minutes I saw that those same Chinese guys came outside and sat down on a bench in front of the entrance, and this time that handsome guy was making quite a few glances at me. Eeh..I became nervous again and we decided to escape inside. On our way to the entrance this guy waved and smiled to me, and I waved back and went inside.
We were supposed to go back to the dancefloor with my friend, when suddenly someone grabbed my hand from behind, I turned around and saw this guy in front of me. He pulled me out of the crowd, led us into the more quiet room and sat us down in a chair. He told me that he wanted to know me better, asked for a phone number and suggested for us to meet again.

My hands were trembling so bad as I dialed my number on his phone and I couldn't understand a half of what he said since the music was still very loud/ I wasn't used to the Chinese accent. Yet I was so happy that such a handsome/cool/nice guy had taken an interest on me.














11 comments:

  1. Teidan ensitapaaminen kuulostaa hyvin samankaltaiselta tarinalta kuin meidankin :)

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  2. Hi, you mentioned that your husband doesn't know any Finnish, so when you first met him when you were 18, were you guys speaking english or chinese to each other?

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  3. Wow, it's rare to meet your future spouse for the first time in a bar. Good thing your husband was persistent and didn't give up right away. Nice story.

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  4. Heissan Sara, joo taitaa aika moneltakin kuullostaa tutulta:D

    Hi Mike, when we first met I didn't speak a word of Chinese so we spoke English. Our communication was very ragged at first since I had never spoken English outside classroom. I started to learn Chinese after we became a couple so that we would have a strong common language in the future.

    Wayne, is it really a rare thing? I think that in Finland it's not so very rare:D Many Finns are shy people when coming to find a partner and most men would have given up already if they would have been left alone on the dancefloor..

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  5. In the US bars/clubs are generally where guys try to "pick up" women. Not really an environment where serious relationships start lol. That's why I thought it was rare for people to meet their future spouse at a bar, but it worked for you and your husband.

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  6. orange_rian,
    if a man trys to look for a woman but if this woman goes away ( like what you say most men would give it up if they were left alone )it is not a good signal in the eyes of me if this embarrassing situation happens to a man what will you expect a man to do ? your boyfriend ( currently your husband ) succeeded in having a relationship not only because he was persistent but also he had luck partly in my opinion after reading this story i am also a chinese who is living overseas for the time being but i am not as lucky as your husband i was also persistent but i was told to go away not directly even though white men get white women difficultly it will only be more difficult for us (asians) i mean all kinds of signals both oral signals and behavioral signals oral signal can be " i have a boyfriend " or something like that females make refusal soft so as not to make males too sad behavioral signal can be " to go away " or " to look at you strangly " in brief i have seen a number of these signals it makes my heart cold facing cold white girls cold white girls from developed countries

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    1. Aye, it's true he was lucky. Back then I walked away because I was shy, nowadays I walk away because I'm married. How can man know the difference? And it's sure hard to be persistent. Now when I'm married I will be annoyed of persistent men. If I tell them 'I'm married' they usually just say 'you're just lying, you're so young you cannot be married' and keep harassing me..

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  7. Wow, love at first sight! Contribut this "Have to love" for you two.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=srGy4xUD2Ig&list=FLvOespr2MyjDQnj_Nz4rwQw&index=5&feature=plpp_video

    Wish the best.

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  8. Something must have clicked. It has nothing to do with the bar. How often two people like you will end up together.

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    1. Yes it must have, since we're still together:)

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